Beyond fun, fathers playing video games with their kids to bond

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He still plays with them about two nights per week on another game, ''Guild Wars,'' where they can chat, hash out personal issues -- and yes -- defeat others in online computer battles.

''It's allowed me to be a continuing influence and provide guidance in their life, and that's important to me,'' said Buckmaster, 55. ''This has been an instrument that is unparalleled.''

At John Idler's home in Moorestown, N.J., a dining room has been converted into a gaming center with three computers linked to the Internet, so he and his sons can play online PC games while sitting side-by-side.

It's also right next to the TV room, so the whole family can still talk, even if his non-gaming wife and daughter would rather watch television.

He said the fun of video games is certainly part of the lure, but it's really just an excuse to spend time together.

''How many parents complain they don't have anything to talk about with their kids? It may be geek talk, but we're still communicating,'' he said. ''How many parents sit down and do things on a consistent basis with their kids? I think it's a great way to share some time.''

One of his sons, 19-year-old Matthew Idler, plans on keeping video games a family tradition for years to come.

''It will be something I do with my kids when I have them,'' he said, ''and my dad will be invited to play with us, of course.''